Circle of Security

Being a parent is full on 24/7 role and no one can prepare you for the highs and lows of bringing up a little human so totally dependent on you.  Being a parent has brought so much joy, but if I’m being honest I can also be very inconvenient.  There, I’ve said it!  I can’t just get up and go to the movies/pub/restaurant or sleep in.  However, inconvenience is NOT a regret.

I feel very fortunate that I was invited to join a Circle of Security course by my local Plunket group.

After taking this course, my little mint knows I will drop everything to spend time her; to either watch her play, kiss a sore arm/leg/head better, or watch her show me a leaf from the garden.  You can spoil kids with food and money, but you can’t spoil them with your love and attention.  Sometimes she has tantrums and I feel like escaping (time out for me) or giving in, but I sit with her and help her organise her feelings (time in).  I personally don’t like the “treat ’em mean” or “harden up” approach for preschoolers, but everyone is different.

While spending this time with my little mint, no one has ever stolen my dirty dishes, dirty laundry, or the dust from my house.  Household chores don’t have feelings to be broken if I abandon them for my little mint.  If my husband is worried about the state of the house, he picks up some cleaning things and gets stuck in.  If we’re having a tough day and a friend or relative asks if they can help, I ask for help with the chores.  They may not do it the same way I do, but it gets done.

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